Love…

Love cannot be found where it doesn’t exist, nor can it be hidden where it truly does – David Schwimmer, from Kissing a Fool

You cannot hide when you are in love as you glow, happy, smile more and you walk with sprint under your feet.  But when you don’t love someone anymore, you don’t feel the connection and you can’t hide that dead feeling forever because it will show in how you act and behave around that person.

TRUST….

Trust is fragile thing, easy to break, easy to lose, and one of the hardest thing to ever get back – Anonymous.

Yes… trust is something that we take lightly but yet something that carries so much weight in life, whether it’s in business, relationship, friendship, or even in our daily life. We trust the cook when we go to restaurants that our food is good. We trust auto mechanics to fix our car, and make sure our car is safe to drive. We trust the banks where we deposit our money, that our money will be in our accounts. We trust our loved ones that they will love us forever. Everything we do daily is based on trust whether we realize it or not.

Trust in relationship and friendship, are the hardest to gain back once it’s broken. Because broken trust, creates doubt in the heart and mind of the persons being cheated or taken advantage of. Once trust is broken, you are always on guard, looking for any clues if you are ever going to be cheated again. Broken trust can make one’s mind going crazy and will eat you alive in doubt and fear.

when trust is broken, a person has to work very hard to prove that he/she is trustworthy again. This process can take a long time, or will never be achieved. I learn trust is also about one’s integrity 🙂

So, whenever someone trusts you with their valuable asset, make sure you guard it with your integrity and life because that person trusts you wholeheartedly. Whenever someone gives you their heart and loves you, you are blessed and trusted with the most valuable possession on the earth. So, please treat their heart as it’s your only possession on earth.  Hold the heart in your hands gently and treat it with tender loving care.  If you break the heart, you break the trust 🙂

Can Love Be Manipulated?

Love is a choice and a voluntary act – Susy Pujiro

After talking to my friend about relationship and love.  I cannot stop thinking about the conversation we had, how love can be manipulated.  We both agree that love and relationship go hand in hand.  We also agree the ingredients to have a healthy relationship are love, trust, respect, communication and of course, chemistry or some say “sparks” 🙂  Love can bring us happiness and also heartache.  Love is the foundation  and glue to the relationship.  Without love, you have nothing to work on a relationship. Same with chemistry or sparks, without them, nothing lits up 🙂

Love has many facets.  There are lover’s love, family love, brotherly love and friendship love. All relationship has love as its foundation.  That is why you fall in love first, then you want to be with the person because you can’t imagine living without them.  Because of your love to the person, you want to build a relationship which you hope will turn into a marriage and make a family.

Can love be forced? No.  Even if you succeed in forcing love, that love can turn into hatred.  You cannot force someone to love you if they don’t have it in their heart.  They can fake on loving you, but it’s only temporary.  Because that forced love will turn into resentment, bitterness and rejection.  Instead of happiness, forced love makes life miserable for both parties.

Can love be manipulated? Yes, you can manipulate love for personal gain or for whatever reason you have.  In this case, you will make the person, whose love you manipulate , a prisoner of love.  The question is whether that love will last forever.  Just like the bird in the cage, waiting to be free.  It will always look for an opportunity for a little crack in the door, to push through and fly.  Once it flies, it will never come back or it will die. What you will have is love zombie 🙂

Love that is forced and manipulated will only last a while because it’s not truly love.  Because love is a voluntary act and a choice.  You can’t control when you fall in love, but you can choose to fall out of love.  I can choose who I love and I don’t love.  I can choose to love my dogs, my parents, my children, my home.  I can choose to love voluntarily.  I also can choose to fall out of love for some reasons, or I let love dies.

Love is also a matter of the heart.  The Bible says “out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks”.  Everything is conceived in the heart, then it goes to the mind and finally the mouth speaks.  So, when love dies, it first dies in the heart. When love dies in the heart, it can only be  revived if there is still a seed of love that with some TLC, that seed of love will grow again.  That’s when your relationship is restored and it has to be a 100% effort on both parties.  If there is no seed of love, no matter what you try to revive love, it will not come back to life. Just like the saying “home is where the heart is”.  When the heart is not in the home, love flies away.

In my personal experience with love, relationship and betrayal of love.  I learned without love, I have nothing to work on a relationship.   I can force and manipulate love and make the person to stay.  But it’s temporal, because soon or later, that person will leave because his heart and love have flown away.  I only hold the person as my prisoner of love without the heart, it’s an empty love.   I want a relationship with love and a heart that are given to me voluntarily 🙂

Happy 4th of July :)

I want to wish “Happy 4th of July” to all fellow Americans and to all people who are celebrating the Independence Day of America. Let us not forget the cost of freedom that we enjoy, and a lot of times we take for granted. Most of all, let us remember the wars fought to liberate us from oppressors and colonizers. Let us not forget the many lives lost in the battle to fight for our freedom so we can live freely in the land of the brave.

Freedom costs everything from lives, money to land, but yet freedom also will take us to a place we never dream of. I urge you to take time to count your blessings to what the freedom has given to your lives and pray for America that God will always bless America and put America in the cup of His hands and that He sends His angels to watch over America, because God loves America and He loves you too 🙂

And to all of the veterans who have served and serving now.. we say “THANK YOU” for all that you do for us.  May God bless you abundantly and keep you safe in the palm of His hands 🙂

Loyal To The End

Dog is man’s best friend – Anonymous

Thursday, June 26, 2014 was the saddest day in my life as I had to put my beautiful little girl to sleep.  She got sick 2.5 months ago and I nursed her back to life.  She was doing well till about a month ago and she just went down hill pretty fast.  I did everything I could to save her.  The Vet told me what she had was a blessing and a curse because it was fast and aggressive and no amount of money could do her any good.

Her name was Misty, a West Highland Terrier.  She loved to roll in the snow and just buried herself in it.  She would charge at any big dogs like she was the alpha.  She was Houdini, she could pick the kennel door and got out.  After a while, I learn to trust her and let her roam the house when I was gone.  She was my shadow for 15.5 years and she never left my side.  I did not need to call her or anything, she would be right there with me.  When I worked, she would curl up under my desk.  When I watched TV, she would lay down next to me.  When I walk, she would be right behind me.   Even towards the end, she would look for me, when she didn’t see me.   She gave me two more months to spend with her and to prepare me to let her go.  I knew it was time for her to go, but it was so hard to let go.  I held her so tight to the end and she didn’t go alone.  She knew she was loved.  I know she is in heaven, running and playing and no more suffering.  One day, I will see her again 🙂

I miss her terribly.  The other night, I came home and as soon as I walked into my house, I called her name.  Then, I realized she was no longer with me.  It is hard to prepare food for other kids as I would still look for her dish to fill.  Her bed is still next to mine 🙂  out of the blue, I would just cry.  I have my bad days and good days.  My children know I am not altogether yet.  They know I am still sad and miss Misty terribly.

Dog is often called man’s best friend, loyal and faithful, companion, loving.  Dogs give us unconditional love.  Even though, we know what would happen a few years down the road, because of the love and companionship they give us, we were so willing to go through the heartache all over again.  I guess, love is worth all the risk.  I believe if we were to watch how animals interact with each other, we could learn about love and life from them.

Same with God’s love, even though it hurts Him to see His son hung on the cross to pay for our sins.  He did not waver in His decision because of His love for us.  Yet, when we were sinners, He send His son to die on the cross so that we can get saved because of His grace and mercy.  He doesn’t force us to follow Him, He waits till we are ready because that is just who He is – faithful, loving,  and merciful.  I consider myself blessed to know the love of God and the love of my pets.  Misty hung on till I was ready to let her go.  Same with God.  He waits till you are ready to come to Him and He will welcome you into His arms, in the meantime He does what He can to keep you safe.

God knew what was going to happen with Misty before she got sick.  I was persuaded by my friend to take her puppy three months ago.  His name is Nemo, a maltipoo.  Nemo has been my shadow last week before Misty went.  It felt like the baton was passed from Misty to Nemo to watch me.  He would follow me like Misty did.  First I thought it was strange for a puppy that young to do such thing.  Now, I know 🙂

 

Out Of The Cookie Into The Fortune

Finding your treasure within – Susy Pujiro

Finally…. My book  “Out Of The Cookie Into The Fortune” was published on June 10, 2014.   It was a bittersweet day for me.  I have mixed feelings about the book, wondering if I made the right decision of even writing the book, as my life is out there for the world to read and see.

When I started writing the book, my friend asked me if I were to use my real name or pen name.  After many discussions with my children and a few friends, I decided to use my real name.  Even though I cried for two days, I didn’t regret using my real name,  as I realize each one of us is writing our own book of life whether it’s on earth or it’s being written by God in heaven.  Each one of us has a story to tell 🙂

He put the passion of writing in me when He created me.  I have given the opportunity by Him to write a book and I have seen His hands on this project since the beginning.  Sometimes, you don’t know what God has in mind when He asks you to do something.  He sees the future, and what He sees usually is better than what we think or see 🙂

If you would like a copy of the book, you can order one or as many as you like at amazon.com and here is the link :

http://www.amazon.com/Out-Cookie-Into-Fortune-Treasure/dp/1500142247/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1403277805&sr=1-1&keywords=out+of+the+cookie+into+the+fortune

I pray as you read the book, it will bring blessing and healing to you.  May you feel and experience the love of God and be encouraged to chase your dream… the future is yours 🙂

 

 

Someone loves you…..

We should not be mean to anybody because that anybody has someone who loves them – Mary Pujiro

While I am cleaning my office today, The Lord reminds me of what my mom used to say when I was growing up.  She always said that we should not be mean to a person as someone loves them and we should remember that.  In this instance, she was speaking about her daughter in law and sons in law.

As I grew up, I watched how my mom interacted with her daughter in law and sons in law.  She was always courteous with them and did not interfere in their relationships.  Now, that both of my parents are gone.  I realize even though I don’t have my earthly parents anymore but someone still loves me very much, watches over me, and always have my best interest in His mind.. and that person is God.  I am never alone, He is always there for me 🙂

I hope and pray that I will be like my mother towards my children’s spouses.  I have watched my sons dating and breaking up with their girlfriends.  I am always there for them and I refrain myself to not interfere in their relationships.  I have likened both of my sons’ girlfriends.  We  get along pretty well, to make them comfortable sitting in my kitchen and visiting with me.

I would admit, I love my sons’ girlfriends like my own daughters.  They are still young, but my prayers that God will bring them who He wants them to marry and raise a family together and serve Him.  I think that’s the prayers of all parents for their kids.  I am blessed 🙂

 

 

One Man’s Trash, Another’s Treasure

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder – Anonymous

During my divorce, I was out to lunch with my friends and the subject of divorce came up in our conversation.  My friend who is divorced, had a similar story as why I was divorcing.  Both of our husbands had an affair.  At the end of our conversation, she threw her hand up in the air and said “one man’s trash, another’s treasure”.  I did not say anything at the luncheon to her, but my feelings were hurt.  I felt she was calling me trash as my husband was divorcing me.

Time has passed and now I am divorced and happy.  I have time to ponder what the saying truly means instead of my feelings being hurt every time it rings in my head.  As I look back at my life experience going through divorce.  I realized there is truth to the saying.  When we first get married, we feel like we find the treasure in our spouse and they are the best that ever happen in our life and we cannot live without them.  We don’t see the flaws and we value the treasure as priceless. Somehow, somewhere, sometime, love dies and the treasure that once was highly valued by us suddenly does not mean anything anymore.  The value is lost and we don’t have any use of the treasure.  A lot of times, the treasure ends up either in the trash can or donation place.

Yet, some people would go through the trash and find the treasure, or they go to the donation store to find a treasure they are looking for.  Suddenly, something that was so beautiful, yet lost the value in the eye of the beholder, becoming a found treasure to someone else.  This person is so happy that he/she finds what they have been looking for in the treasure.  The treasure becomes their great possession and pride and they are not letting go the treasure at any price 🙂

Sometimes the person who tossed the treasure away, started missing the treasure and wish they still have the treasure but it will be too late because the treasure is already long gone and nowhere to be found. Sometimes the best thing in life, happens once.  If you are lucky, you have a second chance 🙂

So, if you have the treasure and he/she is not perfect and have some flaws.  Look at the treasure as diamond in the rough and its potential.  You can polish her/him with your love, tender kindness, respect, trust and honor.. and after a time, you will have a polished diamond shining brightly and displaying the beauty of your love and you can keep the treasure forever 🙂

 

 

Love or Lust

There is a fine line between love and lust – Susy Pujiro

I was talking to a friend yesterday about love and relationship and the subject became more interesting when lust came to the mixture of the conversation.  After we were done talking, I could not help myself but thinking about our conversation.

When I think of love, I think of a man who is in love with a woman whose love is deeper than skin deep and physical attraction.  This love is a heart to heart connection between two souls, they see each other through the eye of their heart because they love the person for who he/she is in the inside.  They will fall in love with the heart of the person first, and then they will look at each other through eye of love and see the outer beauty of the other person.  That is love that will stand the storms of life and will endure.. it’s true love.

Whereas lust is the opposite of love but feels like love because you are so infatuated with the physical appearance of the other person that you think you are in love. But lust will fade away because there is no true connection between two persons besides physical attraction.  It will be short lived because you are building your relationship on sand.  When the storms of life comes, that relationship will come to ruins.

There is a fine line between love and lust because they both first look alike, feels right.  They both give you the high of feeling on top of the world, but one is real and the other is not.  Be careful what you choose 🙂

The Old Lady In The Moon :)

Love eventually will find its way – Susy Pujiro

When I was little, my mother would tell me bedtime stories.  One of the many stories she told me was about the old lady in the moon.  Whenever it was full moon, she would point to the moon and told me there was an old lady living in the moon.  Her job was to tie red string on people’s ankles who supposed to be married but if they go and marry someone else. The string is still there, and eventually they will find each other and marry 🙂

As I grew up, I forgot about the story of the old lady in the moon.  I got married to the love of my life and I thought it would be till death do us part but that was not the case.  What I learned in my journey of love, is that love doesn’t change, meaning of marriage doesn’t change, the vow doesn’t change but people change.  We can not choose to fall in love, we just fall because love is like wind, you don’t know where it comes from but you can feel it touching you.  At any moment, we can choose to fall out of love because we have a change in heart.

I was reminded of the story while I was talking to my friend about relationship 🙂  Something awakened inside my heart that gives me hope.  Yes, I married the love of my life but was he the one with the same red string in his ankle as mine..?

Well.. life definitely is interesting and here I am later in life being reminded of the story that I heard when I was a little girl.  I have hope that the man who has the same red string on his ankle as mine is out there, looking for me and when he finds me.  I will know it in my heart that he is the one 🙂

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