Love cannot be found where it doesn’t exist, nor can it be hidden where it truly does – David Schwimmer, from Kissing a Fool
You cannot hide when you are in love as you glow, happy, smile more and you walk with sprint under your feet. But when you don’t love someone anymore, you don’t feel the connection and you can’t hide that dead feeling forever because it will show in how you act and behave around that person.
Trust is fragile thing, easy to break, easy to lose, and one of the hardest thing to ever get back – Anonymous.
Yes… trust is something that we take lightly but yet something that carries so much weight in life, whether it’s in business, relationship, friendship, or even in our daily life. We trust the cook when we go to restaurants that our food is good. We trust auto mechanics to fix our car, and make sure our car is safe to drive. We trust the banks where we deposit our money, that our money will be in our accounts. We trust our loved ones that they will love us forever. Everything we do daily is based on trust whether we realize it or not.
Trust in relationship and friendship, are the hardest to gain back once it’s broken. Because broken trust, creates doubt in the heart and mind of the persons being cheated or taken advantage of. Once trust is broken, you are always on guard, looking for any clues if you are ever going to be cheated again. Broken trust can make one’s mind going crazy and will eat you alive in doubt and fear.
when trust is broken, a person has to work very hard to prove that he/she is trustworthy again. This process can take a long time, or will never be achieved. I learn trust is also about one’s integrity 🙂
So, whenever someone trusts you with their valuable asset, make sure you guard it with your integrity and life because that person trusts you wholeheartedly. Whenever someone gives you their heart and loves you, you are blessed and trusted with the most valuable possession on the earth. So, please treat their heart as it’s your only possession on earth. Hold the heart in your hands gently and treat it with tender loving care. If you break the heart, you break the trust 🙂
Love is a choice and a voluntary act – Susy Pujiro
After talking to my friend about relationship and love. I cannot stop thinking about the conversation we had, how love can be manipulated. We both agree that love and relationship go hand in hand. We also agree the ingredients to have a healthy relationship are love, trust, respect, communication and of course, chemistry or some say “sparks” 🙂 Love can bring us happiness and also heartache. Love is the foundation and glue to the relationship. Without love, you have nothing to work on a relationship. Same with chemistry or sparks, without them, nothing lits up 🙂
Love has many facets. There are lover’s love, family love, brotherly love and friendship love. All relationship has love as its foundation. That is why you fall in love first, then you want to be with the person because you can’t imagine living without them. Because of your love to the person, you want to build a relationship which you hope will turn into a marriage and make a family.
Can love be forced? No. Even if you succeed in forcing love, that love can turn into hatred. You cannot force someone to love you if they don’t have it in their heart. They can fake on loving you, but it’s only temporary. Because that forced love will turn into resentment, bitterness and rejection. Instead of happiness, forced love makes life miserable for both parties.
Can love be manipulated? Yes, you can manipulate love for personal gain or for whatever reason you have. In this case, you will make the person, whose love you manipulate , a prisoner of love. The question is whether that love will last forever. Just like the bird in the cage, waiting to be free. It will always look for an opportunity for a little crack in the door, to push through and fly. Once it flies, it will never come back or it will die. What you will have is love zombie 🙂
Love that is forced and manipulated will only last a while because it’s not truly love. Because love is a voluntary act and a choice. You can’t control when you fall in love, but you can choose to fall out of love. I can choose who I love and I don’t love. I can choose to love my dogs, my parents, my children, my home. I can choose to love voluntarily. I also can choose to fall out of love for some reasons, or I let love dies.
Love is also a matter of the heart. The Bible says “out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks”. Everything is conceived in the heart, then it goes to the mind and finally the mouth speaks. So, when love dies, it first dies in the heart. When love dies in the heart, it can only be revived if there is still a seed of love that with some TLC, that seed of love will grow again. That’s when your relationship is restored and it has to be a 100% effort on both parties. If there is no seed of love, no matter what you try to revive love, it will not come back to life. Just like the saying “home is where the heart is”. When the heart is not in the home, love flies away.
In my personal experience with love, relationship and betrayal of love. I learned without love, I have nothing to work on a relationship. I can force and manipulate love and make the person to stay. But it’s temporal, because soon or later, that person will leave because his heart and love have flown away. I only hold the person as my prisoner of love without the heart, it’s an empty love. I want a relationship with love and a heart that are given to me voluntarily 🙂
I want to wish “Happy 4th of July” to all fellow Americans and to all people who are celebrating the Independence Day of America. Let us not forget the cost of freedom that we enjoy, and a lot of times we take for granted. Most of all, let us remember the wars fought to liberate us from oppressors and colonizers. Let us not forget the many lives lost in the battle to fight for our freedom so we can live freely in the land of the brave.
Freedom costs everything from lives, money to land, but yet freedom also will take us to a place we never dream of. I urge you to take time to count your blessings to what the freedom has given to your lives and pray for America that God will always bless America and put America in the cup of His hands and that He sends His angels to watch over America, because God loves America and He loves you too 🙂
And to all of the veterans who have served and serving now.. we say “THANK YOU” for all that you do for us. May God bless you abundantly and keep you safe in the palm of His hands 🙂
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