Believe In Yourself

A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because her trust is not on the branch but on its own wings.  Always believe in yourself – Anynomous

I read above saying this morning, I could not help but think about it all day.  The saying is very profound about confidence.  I started watching the birds in my backyard.  I notice birds will fly and stand on the branch and never circles around to do so.  The bird has every confidence that the branch will hold their weight and will not make them fall.  Even when the branch breaks, the bird will fly before it hits the ground.

As human, we are different, we have doubt and unbelief.  We tend to calculate a lot of things in our lives.  We will doubt the branch, if it can hold our weight, if it will break, the branch is too small, etc.  We don’t trust ourselves to just make the landing.

We doubt our potential because we are afraid to make the first step, afraid of failures.  A lot of times, others see our potential but we can’t because we don’t believe in ourselves, our own wings.

If we put our mind into something, and have all confidence that we can do it, a lot of times we make it to the other side.  We can believe on our own wings 🙂 The bird only has its wings to back them up, but we have God to back us up 100% if we believe in ourselves and trust Him, because He will not let us fall.  He is always there to catch you because He loves you very much that He gives His son for you 🙂

Worry Does Not….

Worry does not empty tomorrow of its troubles, it empties today of its strength – Anonymous

There is no joy in worrying as it only robs your happiness. We can worry and worry and it will not solve any problem, but will imprison us into fear. Sometimes what we worry doesn’t matter at the end of the day. When we concentrate on worrying about the “what if”, we might lose sight and missing what is important today.

Today has its own troubles. So, trust God and believe that He knows everything and He is working behind the scene on our behalf. In the meantime, seize the moment, look at your surroundings and enjoy the good things that has been bestowed upon you because you are blessed beyond imaginations 🙂


Trust is fragile thing, easy to break, easy to lose, and one of the hardest thing to ever get back – Anonymous.

Yes… trust is something that we take lightly but yet something that carries so much weight in life, whether it’s in business, relationship, friendship, or even in our daily life. We trust the cook when we go to restaurants that our food is good. We trust auto mechanics to fix our car, and make sure our car is safe to drive. We trust the banks where we deposit our money, that our money will be in our accounts. We trust our loved ones that they will love us forever. Everything we do daily is based on trust whether we realize it or not.

Trust in relationship and friendship, are the hardest to gain back once it’s broken. Because broken trust, creates doubt in the heart and mind of the persons being cheated or taken advantage of. Once trust is broken, you are always on guard, looking for any clues if you are ever going to be cheated again. Broken trust can make one’s mind going crazy and will eat you alive in doubt and fear.

when trust is broken, a person has to work very hard to prove that he/she is trustworthy again. This process can take a long time, or will never be achieved. I learn trust is also about one’s integrity 🙂

So, whenever someone trusts you with their valuable asset, make sure you guard it with your integrity and life because that person trusts you wholeheartedly. Whenever someone gives you their heart and loves you, you are blessed and trusted with the most valuable possession on the earth. So, please treat their heart as it’s your only possession on earth.  Hold the heart in your hands gently and treat it with tender loving care.  If you break the heart, you break the trust 🙂

Can Love Be Manipulated?

Love is a choice and a voluntary act – Susy Pujiro

After talking to my friend about relationship and love.  I cannot stop thinking about the conversation we had, how love can be manipulated.  We both agree that love and relationship go hand in hand.  We also agree the ingredients to have a healthy relationship are love, trust, respect, communication and of course, chemistry or some say “sparks” 🙂  Love can bring us happiness and also heartache.  Love is the foundation  and glue to the relationship.  Without love, you have nothing to work on a relationship. Same with chemistry or sparks, without them, nothing lits up 🙂

Love has many facets.  There are lover’s love, family love, brotherly love and friendship love. All relationship has love as its foundation.  That is why you fall in love first, then you want to be with the person because you can’t imagine living without them.  Because of your love to the person, you want to build a relationship which you hope will turn into a marriage and make a family.

Can love be forced? No.  Even if you succeed in forcing love, that love can turn into hatred.  You cannot force someone to love you if they don’t have it in their heart.  They can fake on loving you, but it’s only temporary.  Because that forced love will turn into resentment, bitterness and rejection.  Instead of happiness, forced love makes life miserable for both parties.

Can love be manipulated? Yes, you can manipulate love for personal gain or for whatever reason you have.  In this case, you will make the person, whose love you manipulate , a prisoner of love.  The question is whether that love will last forever.  Just like the bird in the cage, waiting to be free.  It will always look for an opportunity for a little crack in the door, to push through and fly.  Once it flies, it will never come back or it will die. What you will have is love zombie 🙂

Love that is forced and manipulated will only last a while because it’s not truly love.  Because love is a voluntary act and a choice.  You can’t control when you fall in love, but you can choose to fall out of love.  I can choose who I love and I don’t love.  I can choose to love my dogs, my parents, my children, my home.  I can choose to love voluntarily.  I also can choose to fall out of love for some reasons, or I let love dies.

Love is also a matter of the heart.  The Bible says “out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks”.  Everything is conceived in the heart, then it goes to the mind and finally the mouth speaks.  So, when love dies, it first dies in the heart. When love dies in the heart, it can only be  revived if there is still a seed of love that with some TLC, that seed of love will grow again.  That’s when your relationship is restored and it has to be a 100% effort on both parties.  If there is no seed of love, no matter what you try to revive love, it will not come back to life. Just like the saying “home is where the heart is”.  When the heart is not in the home, love flies away.

In my personal experience with love, relationship and betrayal of love.  I learned without love, I have nothing to work on a relationship.   I can force and manipulate love and make the person to stay.  But it’s temporal, because soon or later, that person will leave because his heart and love have flown away.  I only hold the person as my prisoner of love without the heart, it’s an empty love.   I want a relationship with love and a heart that are given to me voluntarily 🙂

One Man’s Trash, Another’s Treasure

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder – Anonymous

During my divorce, I was out to lunch with my friends and the subject of divorce came up in our conversation.  My friend who is divorced, had a similar story as why I was divorcing.  Both of our husbands had an affair.  At the end of our conversation, she threw her hand up in the air and said “one man’s trash, another’s treasure”.  I did not say anything at the luncheon to her, but my feelings were hurt.  I felt she was calling me trash as my husband was divorcing me.

Time has passed and now I am divorced and happy.  I have time to ponder what the saying truly means instead of my feelings being hurt every time it rings in my head.  As I look back at my life experience going through divorce.  I realized there is truth to the saying.  When we first get married, we feel like we find the treasure in our spouse and they are the best that ever happen in our life and we cannot live without them.  We don’t see the flaws and we value the treasure as priceless. Somehow, somewhere, sometime, love dies and the treasure that once was highly valued by us suddenly does not mean anything anymore.  The value is lost and we don’t have any use of the treasure.  A lot of times, the treasure ends up either in the trash can or donation place.

Yet, some people would go through the trash and find the treasure, or they go to the donation store to find a treasure they are looking for.  Suddenly, something that was so beautiful, yet lost the value in the eye of the beholder, becoming a found treasure to someone else.  This person is so happy that he/she finds what they have been looking for in the treasure.  The treasure becomes their great possession and pride and they are not letting go the treasure at any price 🙂

Sometimes the person who tossed the treasure away, started missing the treasure and wish they still have the treasure but it will be too late because the treasure is already long gone and nowhere to be found. Sometimes the best thing in life, happens once.  If you are lucky, you have a second chance 🙂

So, if you have the treasure and he/she is not perfect and have some flaws.  Look at the treasure as diamond in the rough and its potential.  You can polish her/him with your love, tender kindness, respect, trust and honor.. and after a time, you will have a polished diamond shining brightly and displaying the beauty of your love and you can keep the treasure forever 🙂