Beauty is in the eye of the beholder – Anonymous

During my divorce, I was out to lunch with my friends and the subject of divorce came up in our conversation.  My friend who is divorced, had a similar story as why I was divorcing.  Both of our husbands had an affair.  At the end of our conversation, she threw her hand up in the air and said “one man’s trash, another’s treasure”.  I did not say anything at the luncheon to her, but my feelings were hurt.  I felt she was calling me trash as my husband was divorcing me.

Time has passed and now I am divorced and happy.  I have time to ponder what the saying truly means instead of my feelings being hurt every time it rings in my head.  As I look back at my life experience going through divorce.  I realized there is truth to the saying.  When we first get married, we feel like we find the treasure in our spouse and they are the best that ever happen in our life and we cannot live without them.  We don’t see the flaws and we value the treasure as priceless. Somehow, somewhere, sometime, love dies and the treasure that once was highly valued by us suddenly does not mean anything anymore.  The value is lost and we don’t have any use of the treasure.  A lot of times, the treasure ends up either in the trash can or donation place.

Yet, some people would go through the trash and find the treasure, or they go to the donation store to find a treasure they are looking for.  Suddenly, something that was so beautiful, yet lost the value in the eye of the beholder, becoming a found treasure to someone else.  This person is so happy that he/she finds what they have been looking for in the treasure.  The treasure becomes their great possession and pride and they are not letting go the treasure at any price 🙂

Sometimes the person who tossed the treasure away, started missing the treasure and wish they still have the treasure but it will be too late because the treasure is already long gone and nowhere to be found. Sometimes the best thing in life, happens once.  If you are lucky, you have a second chance 🙂

So, if you have the treasure and he/she is not perfect and have some flaws.  Look at the treasure as diamond in the rough and its potential.  You can polish her/him with your love, tender kindness, respect, trust and honor.. and after a time, you will have a polished diamond shining brightly and displaying the beauty of your love and you can keep the treasure forever 🙂