Love Knows No End :)

Love is the beginning, middle, and end – Anonymous

I went shopping the other day.  While browsing through the store, I found a dish soap that caught my eye.  I was not going to buy it, but I kept going back and looking at the dish.  Finally, I decided to buy the soap dish.  The writing on the dish was what caught my eye.  It said “love is the beginning, middle, and end”.

The dish is sitting on my dresser now and I keep looking at it.  The colors are simple, beige and green.  I am going to use it for jewelry dish.  I have time to ponder what it said in the last couple days.

How true it is about love.  Love doesn’t know any end.  The beginning always start with a warm fuzzy feeling of falling in love, that makes you smile when you think of that person, put butterfly in your stomach at the thought of that person, you can’t eat and sleep, you wake up in the morning with that person in your mind, you can’t stop thinking of him/her all day, you can’t wait to see them.

All along love grows in the middle and you continue in the relationship with love guiding you through thick and thin, bad days and good days as life brings.  While you walk alongside love in the middle, you need to make a conscious effort to give love TLC otherwise love cannot grow as you expect it, or love can wither and die away.  Love can’t grow without being tended and nurtured.  The middle love is the most important part of love.

At the end, love is how you nurture it.  Love will always be there to the end, no matter what the end is.  I always think when love ends, it’s the end of love.  But it’s not the case, when love dies, love is still there in your heart but it’s not the love that you used to feel but it becomes a memory of love.

So, don’t forget 🙂 love is the beginning, middle and end.  Love is always there.  It’s our job to nurture love so it can grow and bear fruit of happiness, joy, peace, kindness, gentleness.  Love is not selfish 🙂 LOVE = GIVE 🙂

Have a blessed love week 🙂

Believe In Yourself

A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because her trust is not on the branch but on its own wings.  Always believe in yourself – Anynomous

I read above saying this morning, I could not help but think about it all day.  The saying is very profound about confidence.  I started watching the birds in my backyard.  I notice birds will fly and stand on the branch and never circles around to do so.  The bird has every confidence that the branch will hold their weight and will not make them fall.  Even when the branch breaks, the bird will fly before it hits the ground.

As human, we are different, we have doubt and unbelief.  We tend to calculate a lot of things in our lives.  We will doubt the branch, if it can hold our weight, if it will break, the branch is too small, etc.  We don’t trust ourselves to just make the landing.

We doubt our potential because we are afraid to make the first step, afraid of failures.  A lot of times, others see our potential but we can’t because we don’t believe in ourselves, our own wings.

If we put our mind into something, and have all confidence that we can do it, a lot of times we make it to the other side.  We can believe on our own wings 🙂 The bird only has its wings to back them up, but we have God to back us up 100% if we believe in ourselves and trust Him, because He will not let us fall.  He is always there to catch you because He loves you very much that He gives His son for you 🙂

Change of Heart

When love grows cold, the heart changes – Susy Pujiro

I was talking to my friend about her situation two weeks ago. They are currently separated after 15 years of marriage. They haven’t made up their mind yet about what they want to do. I suggested that she works on the relationship if she is not sure about divorce. She said she could work on making the marriage work but it was not going to be the same, because her heart has changed.

I could not help but think about our conversation for the last two weeks. What she said that day was very profound to me. I realize that love also depends on the condition of the heart. I am going to use our hand as the illustration of a heart. When we love someone, we open our heart towards that person like the palm of our hand. When we choose not to love that person, or think the relationship is not working as we think it should be, we turn the heart towards us again and the back of our hand is facing that person. When we cannot make up our mind which way we should go in the relationship, our heart is turned sideways. Depends on which way the heart turns, will be the outcome of your relationship. If the heart turns open like the palm of hand towards the person, then the relationship is restored and as always, both parties have to cooperate and willing to go through the restoration.

In my own experience, when the heart is in the crossroad of the decision, the result has been the back of the hand. The result is not what we want to face, but it happens in 9 out of 10 relationships. Even if you decide to stay in the relationship when you heart has changed, because of kids, money, social status, or the right thing to do. It will not last long because the heart has changed and love is not the same. You are only co-existing and prolonging the situation. Soon or later, you will come to that crossroad again, and you have to make the decision. Just like my friend said, it will not be the same, because her heart changed.

I looked back at my own situation and I could see it clearly now. No matter how much I wanted my marriage to work, it would not work because one of us had a change of heart. The day you think about divorce, the idea has been conceived in the heart. That means, you have had a change of heart about your love and relationship. I believe with all my heart, when a couple is happily married, the thought of divorce will never enter their mind. Because they are in love with each other and their mind is consumed of love towards one another.

Whether, it is the perfect couple with perfect marriage, or the rocky marriage that the writing is all over the wall about divorce, or the odd couple that you wonder why in the first place they get married. All comes to two things, the issue of a heart and love. I always say, no one knows what’s going on behind the closed door 🙂

TRUST….

Trust is fragile thing, easy to break, easy to lose, and one of the hardest thing to ever get back – Anonymous.

Yes… trust is something that we take lightly but yet something that carries so much weight in life, whether it’s in business, relationship, friendship, or even in our daily life. We trust the cook when we go to restaurants that our food is good. We trust auto mechanics to fix our car, and make sure our car is safe to drive. We trust the banks where we deposit our money, that our money will be in our accounts. We trust our loved ones that they will love us forever. Everything we do daily is based on trust whether we realize it or not.

Trust in relationship and friendship, are the hardest to gain back once it’s broken. Because broken trust, creates doubt in the heart and mind of the persons being cheated or taken advantage of. Once trust is broken, you are always on guard, looking for any clues if you are ever going to be cheated again. Broken trust can make one’s mind going crazy and will eat you alive in doubt and fear.

when trust is broken, a person has to work very hard to prove that he/she is trustworthy again. This process can take a long time, or will never be achieved. I learn trust is also about one’s integrity 🙂

So, whenever someone trusts you with their valuable asset, make sure you guard it with your integrity and life because that person trusts you wholeheartedly. Whenever someone gives you their heart and loves you, you are blessed and trusted with the most valuable possession on the earth. So, please treat their heart as it’s your only possession on earth.  Hold the heart in your hands gently and treat it with tender loving care.  If you break the heart, you break the trust 🙂

Can Love Be Manipulated?

Love is a choice and a voluntary act – Susy Pujiro

After talking to my friend about relationship and love.  I cannot stop thinking about the conversation we had, how love can be manipulated.  We both agree that love and relationship go hand in hand.  We also agree the ingredients to have a healthy relationship are love, trust, respect, communication and of course, chemistry or some say “sparks” 🙂  Love can bring us happiness and also heartache.  Love is the foundation  and glue to the relationship.  Without love, you have nothing to work on a relationship. Same with chemistry or sparks, without them, nothing lits up 🙂

Love has many facets.  There are lover’s love, family love, brotherly love and friendship love. All relationship has love as its foundation.  That is why you fall in love first, then you want to be with the person because you can’t imagine living without them.  Because of your love to the person, you want to build a relationship which you hope will turn into a marriage and make a family.

Can love be forced? No.  Even if you succeed in forcing love, that love can turn into hatred.  You cannot force someone to love you if they don’t have it in their heart.  They can fake on loving you, but it’s only temporary.  Because that forced love will turn into resentment, bitterness and rejection.  Instead of happiness, forced love makes life miserable for both parties.

Can love be manipulated? Yes, you can manipulate love for personal gain or for whatever reason you have.  In this case, you will make the person, whose love you manipulate , a prisoner of love.  The question is whether that love will last forever.  Just like the bird in the cage, waiting to be free.  It will always look for an opportunity for a little crack in the door, to push through and fly.  Once it flies, it will never come back or it will die. What you will have is love zombie 🙂

Love that is forced and manipulated will only last a while because it’s not truly love.  Because love is a voluntary act and a choice.  You can’t control when you fall in love, but you can choose to fall out of love.  I can choose who I love and I don’t love.  I can choose to love my dogs, my parents, my children, my home.  I can choose to love voluntarily.  I also can choose to fall out of love for some reasons, or I let love dies.

Love is also a matter of the heart.  The Bible says “out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks”.  Everything is conceived in the heart, then it goes to the mind and finally the mouth speaks.  So, when love dies, it first dies in the heart. When love dies in the heart, it can only be  revived if there is still a seed of love that with some TLC, that seed of love will grow again.  That’s when your relationship is restored and it has to be a 100% effort on both parties.  If there is no seed of love, no matter what you try to revive love, it will not come back to life. Just like the saying “home is where the heart is”.  When the heart is not in the home, love flies away.

In my personal experience with love, relationship and betrayal of love.  I learned without love, I have nothing to work on a relationship.   I can force and manipulate love and make the person to stay.  But it’s temporal, because soon or later, that person will leave because his heart and love have flown away.  I only hold the person as my prisoner of love without the heart, it’s an empty love.   I want a relationship with love and a heart that are given to me voluntarily 🙂

Happy 4th of July :)

I want to wish “Happy 4th of July” to all fellow Americans and to all people who are celebrating the Independence Day of America. Let us not forget the cost of freedom that we enjoy, and a lot of times we take for granted. Most of all, let us remember the wars fought to liberate us from oppressors and colonizers. Let us not forget the many lives lost in the battle to fight for our freedom so we can live freely in the land of the brave.

Freedom costs everything from lives, money to land, but yet freedom also will take us to a place we never dream of. I urge you to take time to count your blessings to what the freedom has given to your lives and pray for America that God will always bless America and put America in the cup of His hands and that He sends His angels to watch over America, because God loves America and He loves you too 🙂

And to all of the veterans who have served and serving now.. we say “THANK YOU” for all that you do for us.  May God bless you abundantly and keep you safe in the palm of His hands 🙂

Loyal To The End

Dog is man’s best friend – Anonymous

Thursday, June 26, 2014 was the saddest day in my life as I had to put my beautiful little girl to sleep.  She got sick 2.5 months ago and I nursed her back to life.  She was doing well till about a month ago and she just went down hill pretty fast.  I did everything I could to save her.  The Vet told me what she had was a blessing and a curse because it was fast and aggressive and no amount of money could do her any good.

Her name was Misty, a West Highland Terrier.  She loved to roll in the snow and just buried herself in it.  She would charge at any big dogs like she was the alpha.  She was Houdini, she could pick the kennel door and got out.  After a while, I learn to trust her and let her roam the house when I was gone.  She was my shadow for 15.5 years and she never left my side.  I did not need to call her or anything, she would be right there with me.  When I worked, she would curl up under my desk.  When I watched TV, she would lay down next to me.  When I walk, she would be right behind me.   Even towards the end, she would look for me, when she didn’t see me.   She gave me two more months to spend with her and to prepare me to let her go.  I knew it was time for her to go, but it was so hard to let go.  I held her so tight to the end and she didn’t go alone.  She knew she was loved.  I know she is in heaven, running and playing and no more suffering.  One day, I will see her again 🙂

I miss her terribly.  The other night, I came home and as soon as I walked into my house, I called her name.  Then, I realized she was no longer with me.  It is hard to prepare food for other kids as I would still look for her dish to fill.  Her bed is still next to mine 🙂  out of the blue, I would just cry.  I have my bad days and good days.  My children know I am not altogether yet.  They know I am still sad and miss Misty terribly.

Dog is often called man’s best friend, loyal and faithful, companion, loving.  Dogs give us unconditional love.  Even though, we know what would happen a few years down the road, because of the love and companionship they give us, we were so willing to go through the heartache all over again.  I guess, love is worth all the risk.  I believe if we were to watch how animals interact with each other, we could learn about love and life from them.

Same with God’s love, even though it hurts Him to see His son hung on the cross to pay for our sins.  He did not waver in His decision because of His love for us.  Yet, when we were sinners, He send His son to die on the cross so that we can get saved because of His grace and mercy.  He doesn’t force us to follow Him, He waits till we are ready because that is just who He is – faithful, loving,  and merciful.  I consider myself blessed to know the love of God and the love of my pets.  Misty hung on till I was ready to let her go.  Same with God.  He waits till you are ready to come to Him and He will welcome you into His arms, in the meantime He does what He can to keep you safe.

God knew what was going to happen with Misty before she got sick.  I was persuaded by my friend to take her puppy three months ago.  His name is Nemo, a maltipoo.  Nemo has been my shadow last week before Misty went.  It felt like the baton was passed from Misty to Nemo to watch me.  He would follow me like Misty did.  First I thought it was strange for a puppy that young to do such thing.  Now, I know 🙂

 

Out Of The Cookie Into The Fortune

Finding your treasure within – Susy Pujiro

Finally…. My book  “Out Of The Cookie Into The Fortune” was published on June 10, 2014.   It was a bittersweet day for me.  I have mixed feelings about the book, wondering if I made the right decision of even writing the book, as my life is out there for the world to read and see.

When I started writing the book, my friend asked me if I were to use my real name or pen name.  After many discussions with my children and a few friends, I decided to use my real name.  Even though I cried for two days, I didn’t regret using my real name,  as I realize each one of us is writing our own book of life whether it’s on earth or it’s being written by God in heaven.  Each one of us has a story to tell 🙂

He put the passion of writing in me when He created me.  I have given the opportunity by Him to write a book and I have seen His hands on this project since the beginning.  Sometimes, you don’t know what God has in mind when He asks you to do something.  He sees the future, and what He sees usually is better than what we think or see 🙂

If you would like a copy of the book, you can order one or as many as you like at amazon.com and here is the link :

http://www.amazon.com/Out-Cookie-Into-Fortune-Treasure/dp/1500142247/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1403277805&sr=1-1&keywords=out+of+the+cookie+into+the+fortune

I pray as you read the book, it will bring blessing and healing to you.  May you feel and experience the love of God and be encouraged to chase your dream… the future is yours 🙂