Inspirational

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Love …..

Love without faithfulness is like a rose with thorns.  Even though it’s the most beautiful and fragrant flower but the thorn can hurt you – Susy Pujiro

Love is like a rose with its thorns.. if you are not careful when you pick a rose, you can poke yourself with the thorns.  It hurts your fingers and sometimes the thorn pokes you deep enough that you bleed.

Same with love, it’s the most beautiful feeling in the world.  Love also has its components to make it beautiful such as trust, faithfulness, respect, honor, loyalty.  When one of the component is missing, it hurts your heart because love is not complete.  Betrayal of love will make your heart bleed.

There is also this special love called unconditional love, that is given by God to all humankind.  That love is without string attach. You don’t have to do anything to earn His love, because of His love for you, He sacrificed His son to die on the cross for your sins.

If you ever want to know His love, open your heart and invite Him in and you will be overtaken by His love.  He smiled the day you were born, because He made you wonderfully 🙂

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What Love Can Be….

Love comes in first sight and meeting the right person, then you nurture love with tender loving care, love grows into a beautiful experience that makes your heart swell and put you on top of the mountain.  Suddenly, trials come and love is tested, but love endures because of loyalty and faithfulness.  Love can be lost in disappointment, dies with betrayal and unfaithfulness – Frank Shinoda

That is the process of love and we always hope love will last forever.  But, that is not always the case because love involves two people.  Unless we both walk together in love, hand in hand, heart to heart, love won’t survive with only one person wanting it.  Love does not need to be spoken but can be felt in the heart.

Love is simple and complicated but powerful.  Love can take you to the mountain top, or crush you and break your heart.  You wonder when you can feel alive again.  But love with time can heal your broken heart.  You can love yourself and heal your broken heart,  so the next time love knocking at the door of your heart, you will be ready to love again 🙂

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Believe In Yourself

A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because her trust is not on the branch but on its own wings.  Always believe in yourself – Anynomous

I read above saying this morning, I could not help but think about it all day.  The saying is very profound about confidence.  I started watching the birds in my backyard.  I notice birds will fly and stand on the branch and never circles around to do so.  The bird has every confidence that the branch will hold their weight and will not make them fall.  Even when the branch breaks, the bird will fly before it hits the ground.

As human, we are different, we have doubt and unbelief.  We tend to calculate a lot of things in our lives.  We will doubt the branch, if it can hold our weight, if it will break, the branch is too small, etc.  We don’t trust ourselves to just make the landing.

We doubt our potential because we are afraid to make the first step, afraid of failures.  A lot of times, others see our potential but we can’t because we don’t believe in ourselves, our own wings.

If we put our mind into something, and have all confidence that we can do it, a lot of times we make it to the other side.  We can believe on our own wings 🙂 The bird only has its wings to back them up, but we have God to back us up 100% if we believe in ourselves and trust Him, because He will not let us fall.  He is always there to catch you because He loves you very much that He gives His son for you 🙂

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Worry Does Not….

Worry does not empty tomorrow of its troubles, it empties today of its strength – Anonymous

There is no joy in worrying as it only robs your happiness. We can worry and worry and it will not solve any problem, but will imprison us into fear. Sometimes what we worry doesn’t matter at the end of the day. When we concentrate on worrying about the “what if”, we might lose sight and missing what is important today.

Today has its own troubles. So, trust God and believe that He knows everything and He is working behind the scene on our behalf. In the meantime, seize the moment, look at your surroundings and enjoy the good things that has been bestowed upon you because you are blessed beyond imaginations 🙂

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Change of Heart

When love grows cold, the heart changes – Susy Pujiro

I was talking to my friend about her situation two weeks ago. They are currently separated after 15 years of marriage. They haven’t made up their mind yet about what they want to do. I suggested that she works on the relationship if she is not sure about divorce. She said she could work on making the marriage work but it was not going to be the same, because her heart has changed.

I could not help but think about our conversation for the last two weeks. What she said that day was very profound to me. I realize that love also depends on the condition of the heart. I am going to use our hand as the illustration of a heart. When we love someone, we open our heart towards that person like the palm of our hand. When we choose not to love that person, or think the relationship is not working as we think it should be, we turn the heart towards us again and the back of our hand is facing that person. When we cannot make up our mind which way we should go in the relationship, our heart is turned sideways. Depends on which way the heart turns, will be the outcome of your relationship. If the heart turns open like the palm of hand towards the person, then the relationship is restored and as always, both parties have to cooperate and willing to go through the restoration.

In my own experience, when the heart is in the crossroad of the decision, the result has been the back of the hand. The result is not what we want to face, but it happens in 9 out of 10 relationships. Even if you decide to stay in the relationship when you heart has changed, because of kids, money, social status, or the right thing to do. It will not last long because the heart has changed and love is not the same. You are only co-existing and prolonging the situation. Soon or later, you will come to that crossroad again, and you have to make the decision. Just like my friend said, it will not be the same, because her heart changed.

I looked back at my own situation and I could see it clearly now. No matter how much I wanted my marriage to work, it would not work because one of us had a change of heart. The day you think about divorce, the idea has been conceived in the heart. That means, you have had a change of heart about your love and relationship. I believe with all my heart, when a couple is happily married, the thought of divorce will never enter their mind. Because they are in love with each other and their mind is consumed of love towards one another.

Whether, it is the perfect couple with perfect marriage, or the rocky marriage that the writing is all over the wall about divorce, or the odd couple that you wonder why in the first place they get married. All comes to two things, the issue of a heart and love. I always say, no one knows what’s going on behind the closed door 🙂

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Cherish, Live, Dream

Cherish simple pleasure, Live for the moment, Dream with your heart – Anonymous

It’s not the big things in life that make our life rich but the simple little pleasures, the kind gestures that make the memories. The big surprises and occasions are great but it’s the icing on the cake. Our life clock is ticking to a zero but yet we don’t know when it’s going to be, so seize the moment, live your life like today is your last day on earth. Tell the people you love that you love them, do good and spread love and kindness and let joy bubbles up from within. Dream big and follow the path where your dreams may take you. Don’t just daydream but walk in your dream because you have destiny to fulfill in this life. So, smile, enjoy the beauty surrounds you, spread love and be sweet like honey 🙂

Have a sweet loving week 🙂

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Love…

Love cannot be found where it doesn’t exist, nor can it be hidden where it truly does – David Schwimmer, from Kissing a Fool

You cannot hide when you are in love as you glow, happy, smile more and you walk with sprint under your feet.  But when you don’t love someone anymore, you don’t feel the connection and you can’t hide that dead feeling forever because it will show in how you act and behave around that person.

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TRUST….

Trust is fragile thing, easy to break, easy to lose, and one of the hardest thing to ever get back – Anonymous.

Yes… trust is something that we take lightly but yet something that carries so much weight in life, whether it’s in business, relationship, friendship, or even in our daily life. We trust the cook when we go to restaurants that our food is good. We trust auto mechanics to fix our car, and make sure our car is safe to drive. We trust the banks where we deposit our money, that our money will be in our accounts. We trust our loved ones that they will love us forever. Everything we do daily is based on trust whether we realize it or not.

Trust in relationship and friendship, are the hardest to gain back once it’s broken. Because broken trust, creates doubt in the heart and mind of the persons being cheated or taken advantage of. Once trust is broken, you are always on guard, looking for any clues if you are ever going to be cheated again. Broken trust can make one’s mind going crazy and will eat you alive in doubt and fear.

when trust is broken, a person has to work very hard to prove that he/she is trustworthy again. This process can take a long time, or will never be achieved. I learn trust is also about one’s integrity 🙂

So, whenever someone trusts you with their valuable asset, make sure you guard it with your integrity and life because that person trusts you wholeheartedly. Whenever someone gives you their heart and loves you, you are blessed and trusted with the most valuable possession on the earth. So, please treat their heart as it’s your only possession on earth.  Hold the heart in your hands gently and treat it with tender loving care.  If you break the heart, you break the trust 🙂

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Can Love Be Manipulated?

Love is a choice and a voluntary act – Susy Pujiro

After talking to my friend about relationship and love.  I cannot stop thinking about the conversation we had, how love can be manipulated.  We both agree that love and relationship go hand in hand.  We also agree the ingredients to have a healthy relationship are love, trust, respect, communication and of course, chemistry or some say “sparks” 🙂  Love can bring us happiness and also heartache.  Love is the foundation  and glue to the relationship.  Without love, you have nothing to work on a relationship. Same with chemistry or sparks, without them, nothing lits up 🙂

Love has many facets.  There are lover’s love, family love, brotherly love and friendship love. All relationship has love as its foundation.  That is why you fall in love first, then you want to be with the person because you can’t imagine living without them.  Because of your love to the person, you want to build a relationship which you hope will turn into a marriage and make a family.

Can love be forced? No.  Even if you succeed in forcing love, that love can turn into hatred.  You cannot force someone to love you if they don’t have it in their heart.  They can fake on loving you, but it’s only temporary.  Because that forced love will turn into resentment, bitterness and rejection.  Instead of happiness, forced love makes life miserable for both parties.

Can love be manipulated? Yes, you can manipulate love for personal gain or for whatever reason you have.  In this case, you will make the person, whose love you manipulate , a prisoner of love.  The question is whether that love will last forever.  Just like the bird in the cage, waiting to be free.  It will always look for an opportunity for a little crack in the door, to push through and fly.  Once it flies, it will never come back or it will die. What you will have is love zombie 🙂

Love that is forced and manipulated will only last a while because it’s not truly love.  Because love is a voluntary act and a choice.  You can’t control when you fall in love, but you can choose to fall out of love.  I can choose who I love and I don’t love.  I can choose to love my dogs, my parents, my children, my home.  I can choose to love voluntarily.  I also can choose to fall out of love for some reasons, or I let love dies.

Love is also a matter of the heart.  The Bible says “out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks”.  Everything is conceived in the heart, then it goes to the mind and finally the mouth speaks.  So, when love dies, it first dies in the heart. When love dies in the heart, it can only be  revived if there is still a seed of love that with some TLC, that seed of love will grow again.  That’s when your relationship is restored and it has to be a 100% effort on both parties.  If there is no seed of love, no matter what you try to revive love, it will not come back to life. Just like the saying “home is where the heart is”.  When the heart is not in the home, love flies away.

In my personal experience with love, relationship and betrayal of love.  I learned without love, I have nothing to work on a relationship.   I can force and manipulate love and make the person to stay.  But it’s temporal, because soon or later, that person will leave because his heart and love have flown away.  I only hold the person as my prisoner of love without the heart, it’s an empty love.   I want a relationship with love and a heart that are given to me voluntarily 🙂

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Happy 4th of July :)

I want to wish “Happy 4th of July” to all fellow Americans and to all people who are celebrating the Independence Day of America. Let us not forget the cost of freedom that we enjoy, and a lot of times we take for granted. Most of all, let us remember the wars fought to liberate us from oppressors and colonizers. Let us not forget the many lives lost in the battle to fight for our freedom so we can live freely in the land of the brave.

Freedom costs everything from lives, money to land, but yet freedom also will take us to a place we never dream of. I urge you to take time to count your blessings to what the freedom has given to your lives and pray for America that God will always bless America and put America in the cup of His hands and that He sends His angels to watch over America, because God loves America and He loves you too 🙂

And to all of the veterans who have served and serving now.. we say “THANK YOU” for all that you do for us.  May God bless you abundantly and keep you safe in the palm of His hands 🙂